There doesn’t have to be a deeper meaning besides it fucking bothers me. It makes me feel uncomfortable and it makes me feel like you just can’t be assed to get the fuck over it and put a light blanket over your god damn shoulder. Don’t want to handle a little squirming from your kid? Go somewhere where the public won’t have to see it. Simple as that.
Everyone’s raised differently, and I was raised that it’s classless and trashy to just pull out a breast and not care who the fuck is around, even if it’s to feed your baby. Being raised that way, it’s what I believe. I agree with it. Not everyone else has to. I was stating my opinions, and I don’t need to justify to someone who just keeps trying to bait me in the guise of understanding.
Here is the thing. If you expect other people to change their behavior, to inconvenience themselves, or to go out of the way to accommodate you, you should have a pretty darned good reason for them to do so. Otherwise, they have no reason to comply.
Especially if you are asking me, a parent, to put off responding to my baby’s hunger—a basic need of my helpless infant child that they can not meet on their own—you had better have some more persuasive argument than “it fucking bothers me.” It fucking bothers me that you think your feelings or discomfort are so much more important than my own or so much more important than the needs of my child that I should put off feeding my baby just to make you happy. Why? What makes you so special that I should just do whatever you tell me to, even if you have no rational reason to tell me to do it?
And no, how you were raised is not a good reason. I grew up in a community where half the kids were raised by members of the KKK. Do you think if you were raised in a household with white supremacists, you should get a pass on still holding racist beliefs? That other people should be obligated to respect your racist beliefs, just because that’s how you were raised? That people should go out of the way to accommodate your racist beliefs even if they don’t share them, just because that’s how you were raised? No.
You have admitted you have no good reason for having a problem with my breastfeeding my child. You just don’t like it. Meanwhile, I have plenty of good reasons to breastfeed my child wherever, whenever, and however I choose: 1) My baby is hungry, and as a good parent, it is my responsibility to make sure that need is met as quickly as possible. 2) My breasts are meant to provide instantaneous and healthy nourishment to my baby. 3) Breastfeeding is time-consuming and it can be hard to find a comfortable position for my baby and I to nurse; it makes the more sense for us to breastfeed when and where and how we are comfortable than it does for us to run around trying to find a place that works for everyone else (but maybe not so much for us), especially when one of us is a hungry baby with zero impulse control.
So. If you’re the one with the problem and no good reason to have one, then you’re the one who should have to modify their behavior. If it makes you uncomfortable, then turn your head. Move away. Leave the room, for all I care. If you don’t want to see my exposed breast while I’m feeding my child, go somewhere where you won’t have to see it. Simple as that.
You’re right. I can’t be assed to put off responding to my hungry child or to inconvenience myself by running off to hide in a dark corner every time my child needs to be fed for someone who has absolutely zero reason to have a problem with my behavior—and has admitted as much—and can’t be assed to in any way to accommodate me or my child themselves.
Either produce a valid reason to be uncomfortable with my breastfeeding that would persuade me it’s a good idea to put your feelings over the needs of my child or you figure out a way to deal with it.